Now this is something that you’d normally associate with addicts. However, by no means is this adjective confined to the heroin user; who, desperate for money to obtain the substance and rid the torment of withdrawal pangs, would attempt to manipulate (verb) you. Manipulativeness (noun) is a trait that you’ll find in people who contradict the external image that they seem to project. I’ve been on the receiving end of people wearing kupiah…
This is something I’ve just read and thought I should share it here. First on the list in spotting a manipulative person is:
- Buttering You Up: To get their way, manipulators will often make you feel good so that they can then ask you to do something that they want. The person may first compliment you or tell you what a wonderful job you did on something. Making you feel good will, in their mind, make it difficult for you to say no…after all, you wouldn’t want to disappoint them or give them reason to think you didn’t deserve the compliment in the first place. What you can do: Return the compliments and the niceties before saying no.
Thinking back, that’s exactly what this kupiah-wearing snake did. I should have been more wary and suspicious of people instead of being so trusting; and had I known about these characteristics, I surely would have. This unpleasant encounter seemed to confirm my earlier concerns about stepping out of the shadows and rejoining society.
But when I think of those who had been great with me – people whom I would never have known had I remained in the shadows – things were back in the proper perspective. This is something that I/we have to risk in our relationships with others. Here are the other four characteristics: 5 Behaviors of Manipulative People – Manage Your Life on Shine